Perhaps You’ve Outgrown Yourself

Here’s a new thought I’ve been sitting with: Sometimes people don’t just outgrow a job, a role, or a market. They outgrow themselves.

And when that happens, it’s disorienting.

They may feel unequipped—or worse, start believing they lack intelligence or drive. They don’t know what’s missing or what needs to change. They just know that something’s off. What used to work doesn’t anymore. The system—internal or external—feels strained.

Sometimes it’s because the market has shifted. Sometimes they need to start selling more—and that rubs against everything they’ve built their identity around. Sometimes they just sense, quietly and persistently, that the way forward isn’t behind them in any of their past successes.

But here’s the real trap: When you’re inside a paradigm, you rarely know you’re inside it. It feels like reality, not a framework. So when that paradigm starts breaking down, it can feel like you’re breaking down.

That’s where I often meet people—not in full-blown crisis, but in the quiet moment before. The moment where the old self is too small, but the new self hasn’t yet arrived. Where transformation is possible—but unformed. Liminal. Alive.

This is where my best work happens: Recognizing the moment.

Helping you stay in that space long enough for something new to emerge. Giving you tools, context, and clarity—not to fix you, but to reveal that you’re not broken. You’re growing.

And yes—this applies to me, too. Right now, I’m learning to do more selling than I’m used to. Not as a tactic, but as an act of becoming. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s also a sign: I’m outgrowing something—and stepping into something else.

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